I’ve learned that a key to authenticity and individualism is motivation…
I believe what has driven me the most in recovery is my innate desire to learn, grow, and evolve. My competition is ultimately myself. I want to be better than the person I was yesterday and become the best, most competent version of myself. Deep down, I know this enables me to proactively contribute to the world, not reactively take from it.
Part of this involves looking for answers to the questions that elude me, seeking solutions for what is not obvious, and recognizing where to look when the paths are not paved.
As a new patient in the mental healthcare system almost 20 years ago, I felt thrown into a maze of disparate information in which I was, for the most part, confused and always searching for resources. The hospitals only gave me listings of local support groups, doctors, and counseling centers. I later pursued more resources on my own: a disability lawyer, a disability discharge option for my college student loan, an independent physician organization to hold accountable a doctor who’d openly double-charged me, savings and educational plans for the disabled, and most recently, financial incentives and support for disabled business owners.
The sad part of this is that these resources are not actively promoted. Someone who is physically, mentally, or developmentally disabled is already at a disadvantage, limiting access to independence and self-sufficiency. But the point remains: One must be vigilant and determined on their journey – whether it’s recovery, finding a new home, seeking a new job, or planning a long-distance move. Creativity and flexibility are of utmost importance, because answers and revelations are not always linear. Oftentimes, we must move and adjust our perspectives to achieve our goals.
In my research on personal development, I came across this “wisdom-bomb” in The Code of the Extraordinary Mind, written by entrepreneur and educational investor, Vishen Lakhiani. It’s a quote by Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith:
Behind every problem, there’s a question trying to ask itself.
Behind every question, there’s an answer trying to reveal itself.
Behind every answer, there’s an action trying to take place.
And behind every action, there’s a way of life trying to be born.
Personal progress and opportunities come when those needles in the haystacks are found. And they’re found with tenacity, curiosity, and a compassionate quest for self-improvement.
By Kim Bragado for The Authentic Thinker